1998 to the fall of 2002

Since I have moved to Northwest Arkansas, things have been moving along at a pretty good clip. After joining Sigma Mu and starting to attend meetings in Springfield Mo. I have gotten involved in TriEss to a much larger extent.  Rachael was an inspiration to me, in a sense. She was the leader of the group when I joined. She is a very nice person, in boy and girl mode She is also very nice looking and quite passable.

  It wasn’t long until I was really enjoying my newfound Sisters. Another Sister, Jay, and I decided to go to Houston Texas, for our first Holiday Enfemme. This is an annual TriEss convention where you get to stay a girl for four days. We stayed at a very plush hotel in Houston Texas. There were a whole bunch of “Ladies” there. I found that most Cross Dressers were very nice people. I met one in particular that would eventually change my life. After spending 4 days as Jamie I had to get back into Boy mode and go home. That was a minor letdown, but it was still quite an experience.

  After Houston, I was determined to improve my appearance, it seems like a life long effort. I continued attending meetings at Springfield and working on my ‘ladylike presentation”. I was still doing pictures and videos to see how I looked out of my “minds eye”. A video camera is a very good tool. I was able to walk and talk as a girl, I was getting pretty good at it. I also was able to model all of my outfits, so that I could see how they really looked. I still do that to this day.

  In Nov 2000 I decided to attend a different convention. There was an event called Fall Harvest 2000 in St. Louis Mo. This was not a TriEss function. It was a more “open” event for Cd’ and Ts’s. I drove to St. Louis, in boy mode, and met up with a new Sister from Long Island. This was to be her first time out in public. We ended up having a BLAST. Barbara really had a great time. So did Jamie. I even met a girl that I had known in Colorado. 

The following spring, my wife and I decided to hit the road and see some more of the Country. We started out in S.E. Texas in our motor home. We were close to Houston, so we decided to pay a visit to the TriEss group there. We went to a meeting and my wife got to meet several other wives and their husbands. These were very nice people. I think that she had a major change of heart that weekend. Since then she has been a lot more participative with Jamie.

  After Texas we went to Colorado to spend the rest of the summer. I met another CD there and we got to know each other some. Before long Tootsey and I were headed to Denver to do some shopping and having dinner. We were very well received by everyone we came in contact with. At one restaurant we had finished eating and were taking each other’s pictures, when the gentleman in the next booth offered to take a picture of us together. As I was waiting for Tootsey to finish in the ladies room I noticed a woman staring at me. I looked her in the eye and gave her a big smile, which she returned. Tootsey and I spent a lot of time together that summer. I think we both got a lot more comfortable with our Femme selves. I credit those days for where I am now.

  After we returned from Colorado our next event was “Holiday Enfemme” in Chicago. This time my wife went with me. Jamie got to drive from NW Arkansas to Chicago. That was a very exciting drive. We checked into the hotel and had another great 4 days. We met up with some other couples we had met earlier and had a very nice time.

  During the summer we had arranged to take a cruise around the Caribbean for 7 days. We were part of a 20-person group of CDs, some with spouses, on a Ship of about 2200 people. Jamie drove to Galveston and stayed enfemme for the whole cruise, except for the times we went ashore in Mexico and Grand Caymen. Even with the increased security, after 9-11, I was not given any trouble traveling as Jamie.

 Just prior to the cruise, I started a new phase of my femme self. I had the opportunity to start giving “Outreach” presentations at The University of Arkansas. I visited my first class in late November of 2001. Since that time I have continued to visit two different classes at the University. This has had a major effect on my confidence. I have come to a point where I can just take a day and go into town and shop or get a wig worked on without worrying about getting made. It just isn’t an issue anymore. I do love it when a sales clerk says ”thank you m'am” or Ms …… I have never had anyone say anything negative, or had a negative experience. It seems that people just are not paying attention, that much.

   I spent the summer of 2002 in Colorado again and Tootsey, and Jamie had another great time, shopping and dining. We even got together with two other girls and played a round of golf. Had a great time, until the afternoon storms chased us off the course. click for Picture

 I guess this all leads up to me telling you that it is not a “Jungle” out there, as long as you think like a woman and stay out of places that you shouldn’t be in. Being out in public, dressed appropriately, is absolutely the most fun a CD can have.

   I will continue to grow as a person. I feel that Jamie has helped me find that “center of balance” that I have been missing for so long. I do feel that any Transgender person can do the same.
   You can read about my experiences and see what I have been doing by selecting the links on the first page.

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